Forgiveness and God’s Grace by Sharon Milliman

That it was a journey of healing for my body and for my soul. It is a journey because some hurts take a lifetime to forgive and we just can’t do it on our own. We need God to help us. But the WILL to forgive is the first step.

After my Near Death Experience, I learned that with God everything is Grace. Our very existence is by His Grace. He is constantly pouring out His love and grace upon us.

There is a saying” There but for the grace of God go any one of us”.

Truly, it is by His grace that we are where we are in life. As I have said before, when I had my life review, I never felt as though I was being judged. God does not judge us, we judge ourselves standing before Him. But, as I watched my life passing before me, I saw everything I ever said or did and there was no sense of remorse of guilt. All I felt was complete love and total acceptance.

There was no sense of being held bound by any past events nor were there any feelings of anger or resentment or any unresolved issues tying me down and keeping me trapped in time. All had been forgiven. I had let go of everything. I learned that forgiveness is the freedom of letting go.

That it was a journey of healing for my body and for my soul. It is a journey because some hurts take a lifetime to forgive and we just can’t do it on our own. We need God to help us. But the WILL to forgive is the first step.

Forgiveness is a process and it takes time, sometimes it takes years, and in some cases a lifetime. I learned that forgiveness is a creative act that takes us from prisoners of the past with hurtful memories, to strong, loving people living in the present who are free of the chains that kept us bound, and are now at peace. There is peace because all of the unresolved issues, and the hurt, and bitterness are gone which brings peace to the soul and harmony to one’s life. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting the wrong that was done to us; it means no longer feeling the pain that was done.

Unforgiveness, is a chain that keeps us held bound. We don’t have to forgive others. It is not a requirement. But if we want to be free and we want to heal from the hurts of life, then it is something that we need. Normally, the other party, or parties involved don’t care if they are forgiven, especially if they haven’t asked for forgiveness, they have gone on with their lives, completely oblivious to the devastation, and the hurt still left in our heart.

That’s why forgiveness is important; it breaks those chains and frees our heart. We need it in order to grow, otherwise we become stuck. When we become stuck we no longer feel God’s grace.

Of course, It is always there, we just don’t feel it anymore. And then we begin feeling the illusion that God has abandoned us. We need to allow forgiveness to flow through us and around us; and when we are aware that we are now free from those chains that held us bound, we are free to love unconditionally and we can send that unconditional love out into the world around us.

Then, the natural flow of God’s divine love dissolves all the hurt, all the bitterness, all the pain and the sense of being wronged. Then, we can allow His grace to come to us and flow through us, to forgive through us.

There is no more of the illusion of separation, no more feelings of abandonment. Forgiveness is the greatest form of unconditional love and acceptance. It is a gift that he gives us and it is through His grace that we experience this gift.

Sharon Milliman

A Song In The Wind
A Near Death Experience

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Pain and Suffering on the Twin Flame Journey—Starseed and JB (reblog)

We are in magical and challenging times right now. Some are experiencing bliss and others are struggling. We are seeing twins come into Union much faster than expected and others being pulled even farther away from each other than had been hoped. Truly, we are in an energetic centrifuge that is polarizing twin energies like…

via Pain and Suffering On The Twin Flame Journey — Starseed and JB

Extreme Gratitude in 2016

I never feel alone, but that doesn’t stop me from missing conversations and physical interactions with friends and love ones. The time/space separation between us is one of the many illusions that we have to deal with in the third dimension (3D) world, though we can meet in the fifth dimension (5D) at any time, it’s not the same.

As 2015 came to a close and 2016 was just around the corner, I was thinking that I could NEVER have imagined how this year has turned out. Closing on a house? Getting a raise and retroactive increase in pay? Being given a renewed sense of the reason for a physical existence? And so much more.

Now it’s a whole new year, a whole new me.

Any one of these things would make me feel gratitude, all of them happening in one year has only happened a few times in my life. The year I received my first two Reiki attunements and accepted my ordination (1999), I had turned 40. Then in 2006, starting my massage exchange group (and all entailed), including meeting my twin flame (although I’m not a fan of that particular reference as it implied “soul mate”).

I’m sure there were more in previous years, but these more recent things were life changing to say the least. I never feel alone, but that doesn’t stop me from missing conversations and physical interactions with friends and love ones. The time/space separation between us is one of the many illusions that we have to deal with in the third dimension (3D) world, though we can meet in the fifth dimension (5D) at any time, it’s not the same.

It’s like the thing we call death; it seems to separate us, the “living”, from those who we may wish to be able to have in our lives. The veil between the living and dead only divides us from the each other in a tangible way that is one of the reasons why we have incarnated into the physical to begin with.

This year is a Nine (9) Year; it is about completing cycles and preparing for new ones. It has already begun with a new home, new neighbors and a new financial outlook. By the end of the year, there will be a lot more to feel grateful for…and to plan for changes.

Looking forward to more of that 3D reality that we enjoy so much as 2016 unfolds!

Love Wisdom from “Elena Undone”

10 day old dolphin says hi to a baby penguin
Young love is forever.

After watching a small independent movie recently, Elena Undone, I was struck by the underlying theme that spoke to me on a very intimate level and I felt moved to copy down some of the “love wisdom” it contained.  Starting with, “In love, one and one are one!” It’s this all-encompassing love that we all hope and pray to appear in our lives…but are rarely prepared for it when it happens, and, it does happen.

I’ve written about the concept of Twin Flames; this movie languaged it in a way that was profound and dead-on…

Here are the Ten Signs to look for in what the movie calls the “Ultimate Love Connection”:

  1. It may come in an unusual, unexpected package –not what we think we’re looking for or even believe we want.
  2. These people may meet “randomly”.
  3. Everything seems brand new, but absolutely familiar.
  4. While your worlds seem utterly disconnected, the paths that you’ve individually taken bring you together at freakish randomness.
  5. This person makes you see the world through a different filter.
  6. As hard as you try, this person is living in  every corner of your mind.
  7. When you kiss, it’s like you live inside that kiss forever, but yet it feel brand new.
  8. You are desperate to be with them and you will move heaven and earth to do so.
  9.  Even with challenges seemingly insurmountable, true love will find a way.
  10. This connection has changed you, significantly altered you–to the core!

Another great quote: “The definition of a miracle is when God gives you a choice and you make the right one.”

There’s much more to be gained from watching this movie and I really hope you’ll give it a chance. More importantly, give yourself a chance, take off the old filters and open yourself up to the possibility of find love!


Lifemates in the New 5D Reality

Life is full of surprises, make them happy surprises!

What is the “ideal” lifemate” for a Fifth Dimension (5D) relationship?

The short answer: Lifetime is relative, focus on the now.

The somewhat longer answer is that for a relationship itself to be 5D, both partners must be firmly committed within themselves to living in the new reality with a 5D focus.

If one or both are still transfixed by 3D realties, it’s not possible to have a long-term, mutually productive relationship in the 5D–even if both “want” it. Perplexing as it may be, it’s not a “punishment”–with the suffering that will surely be commensurate. It’s just the additional “weight” (or wait) that the 3D world has, keeping it separate from that of the 5D one. Too many of the underlying motivations to let go of for each individual to do before a 5D relationship is possible.

This is not to say that it is impossible, just improbable for both to do in the short time that you have to establish a meaningful couplehood. So, look first for another 5D person, then begin the dance of intimacy, which is necessary for a satisfying and lasting relationship to emerge with the potential to last a lifetime.

Remember that in the 5D reality, it’s difficult to focus on a lifetime commitment when each of you is focused in the moment. The duality inherent in this 3D reality that each of you continues to inhabit which that still exists, will exerts “pressure” to value the past and the future–not so much in the 5D, the new reality.

This may be complicated, and often heart-wrenching, for you. So much of this world is still rooted in the physical (3D), The more spiritually-based 5D world requires a different viewpoint and yet you will remain physical as you continue to grow and evolve. Finding a lifemate maybe a goal, but try not to compromise in finding one who will be by your side, as you will on theirs. Do this with love, faith and joy, for that is what and who you really are.

Note: Lifemates in the New 5D Reality was started 9/8/09 and continued 8/12/12, almost 3 years in the making!

The “Other” Playing the Part of Discovering Who I Really Am (excerpt)

Sunset reflecting on icy parking lot
We are but a reflection of what we see.

As you look into a mirror, what is the reflection showing you about yourself that you didn’t already know? You may ask yourself, do I look good…today? How will others see me? Will they like what they see? All these questions are valid, from the point of view of that little self that you feel yourself to be. They are valid until they are not. Until then, envision yourself through this lens of the “Other”.

This “Other” is not necessarily a specific person, but it can be. This “Other” can be a romantic partner…or someone who you want to have in your life. Or, it could be your mother, co-worker, friend, or even enemy…the who is not important. It only matters that you perceive this “Other” to be outside of yourself. You have put yourself in the framework of thought, and it is through this externalized thought that you have learned to view yourself, judge yourself, measure yourself against.

This “Other” is a relentless critic; always available, always present in the form of thought. Or is it? Could it be that you have created this framework because you do not know how else to consider yourself…you? You have come by this thought process honestly enough. Those who have raised and nurtured you to this point in your life have done this with all good intentions, usually. For those of you who have experienced this otherwise, it is still your framework for judging your worthiness to exist. This is why it can be so painful to imagine all the thoughts you think others think of you. And, it is through this distorted and well-worn mirror that you have come to recognize yourself, at least the self that you think you are. But, are you this? Are you what you think you are?

Like a Fun House in an old-time amusement park, the distorted mirrors can confuse or amuse, as your mood strikes you upon seeing this reflection of the externalized you. And, it is through the everyday mirror of the “Other” which you have come to form your own opinion of yourself…fair or unfair, but this may not be truth. Opinion is always fluctuating, ever changing; it is the weight of this opinion that makes you unhappy. If you allow the opinion to be internalized, you will sink ever deeper into depression and self-hatred. But, it is only a thought.

You have become accustomed through your lifetime…or possibly multiple lifetimes…of looking first to the mirror of the “Other” for self-validation. By using the “Other” as your mirror, you try that “me” you perceive on and allow that perception to shape how you think and feel about yourself. It becomes a revolving door, you think you’re looking in, but actually, you’re not. You come right back out to where you started from; your mind has not allowed you to see within.