Vision, Hope, and Leadership

Part of a chapter in my book, Lost & Found


Planning Change

Many groups lack the foresight or level of planning required to take an organization beyond the early stages of development. For some, that’s fine; they may not need to have long-range planning. However, if an organization wants to make a real impact on its little portion of the world (a.k.a. mission and vision statements), they have to get past the initial push of enthusiasm and break out of the limitations implicit in working without a plan. But even with a plan, organizations require far more than goals.

Sometimes this can happen through fortunate circumstances or enormous effort on the part of the whole organization to keep things growing organically. I’ve seen this and it is wondrous and rare turn of events. For the rest, it means either the organization will hobble along, perhaps doing OK and sustaining itself on generous donations of time and effort, or they begin the other natural result, dissolution. This can happen slowly, even imperceptibly, over a long period of time; usually, the money or volunteers or both dry up. The stalwart few hold on to the remnants as long as is humanly possible, but unfortunately this rarely works in the long run.

Hope as an Intangible Asset

Hope is one of those intangible assets that can never be measured, bought, or borrowed. It must be present and sustained by those in the position to provide leadership and vision. Hope is like water; it can easily run through the metaphorical fingers of an organization if it’s not contained with some degree of effort on the part of those whose mission and therefore job it is. Equally unfortunate, for leadership of almost every kind, two common issues arise. One is to take the job too seriously; the other is to take oneself too seriously. For me, this has been truly been a life lesson.

A new nonprofit is being created to assist Native Americans in dealing with the aftermath of integration into American society and cultures, often without any real help from the agencies that supposedly were designed to fill this role. The main problem with any governmental agency is that it becomes a victim of its own ideas of rules and efficiencies and of course, the bureaucracy inherent in their very structure. So this nonprofit will step up to the proverbial plate.

A Leader’s Heart

Though this leader’s heart can sometimes be burdened by doubt, it is never without an unflagging sense of hope. This has been my lesson and gift from my participation in this process. There was a TV episode where one character was warned of false hope. The quick and heated retort was that there is no such thing as false hope; there is only hope or no hope; it can never be anything in between.

Envisioning Hope

May I offer that hope is at the heart of our outlook on life? If we have no hope that things are or will soon be better, we will find ourselves in a downward spiral of depression and ultimately failure. However, by focusing—in the mind’s eye—on what may seem to be a false hope to the more pragmatic of us, especially in those of us in a leadership position, we successfully keep success an illusion. In other words, it truly is folly. Vision keeps the eye focused on the true goal of the mission’s success, but, it’s the recognition that in keeping hope alive and well, our success is assured. That’s as true in business as it is in life.

© 2016

Excerpted from Lost & Found: Finding the Lost “I AM” Within You, Chapter 17, Guidance for Living in the New 5D World

Kailley Quote: Caught in the Sea of Collective Thought

The pervasive seas of collective thought that we constantly find ourselves trying to swim in, but often end up drowning out our own self-knowingness.

The pervasive seas of collective thought
that we constantly find ourselves
trying to swim in,
but often end up
drowning out
our own self-knowingness.
~Kailley (from my next book, Lost & Found II)
© 2016

No question goes unanswered – Kailley Quote

No question goes unanswered
No question goes unanswered – Kailley

Listen not to the noise created by stray thoughts;

rather, pay attention to the universe

when a question is asked.

No question goes unanswered.


From Lost and Found: Finding the Lost “I AM” Within You

Paperback and ebook available from Amazon

© 2015

The Heart of the Matter

Love yourself like you did as a child
The Heart of the Matter

Love is the answer, but what is the question? Is there a heart so open that it is always breaking? Yes…but the point is that if your heart isn’t open, why else would you keep it closed?

We all live in fear…mostly fear of the truth that we ARE love. When you say, I love you to another person, do you expect that phrase to be parroted back to you? If you do, then consider this, you are making your love dependent on the other person’s response…whether you know it or not.

Before you close your heart, once again, to the possibility of loving someone after a big breakup with that special person you were sure was “The One,” consider a couple things.

First, if there was a split, no matter how wonderfully-delicious s/he seemed to be during the honeymoon phase, most likely the reality of that person being more than just your fantasy surely popped the bubble.

Second, the thing we all tend to mistake for love is really need-fulfillment in the form of another person due to the feeling that we ourselves lack something critical to our happiness. If you don’t see anything wrong with that, you can look forward to a lifetime of short, turbulent…if not occasionally fun, relationships. If you’re longing for someone to be more than that, consider changing your perspective.

Finally, and most likely, you will continue failing at the “love game” if you have not done one, very important thing first. What, you may ask, is that secret? You probably will balk at the answer…it’s falling in love with yourself first. Before we can recognize love in another, we must love ourselves. And, in my experience, very few people can look in the mirror without flinching and say to yourself, “I love you.”

This may, at first glance, seem highly egotistical, but it is not. Most of us were taught to have a sense of self-modesty and that we are imperfect, therefore, we have come to reason, we must be unlovable. How sad! Watch little kids before they’ve lost the feeling that they are adorable and lovable. They prance around, singing, laughing, engaging with others freely; no modesty there!

Fast forward to what we call adulthood and it’s no wonder that most of us suffer from feeling that we do not deserve love…even from ourselves! To get to the heart of the matter, there is no better place to start over than to emulative an innocent child. Try it. See what happens. But, most importantly, be gentle and patient with yourself, because it has been a long time since you showed YOU love!

For the Love of a Severe God

For the Love of a Severe God by DeBrady

Part of the next book in the Co-Creation Series

Find Balance, Practice Patience

The love of severity is one of those oxymorons; we are attracted to that which limits us. It starts as children but reaches its full fruition as we mature. We may rail against these same restrictions, yet if we’re offered alternatives, we balk–especially when these relaxations of conduct apply to society as a whole.

We see it in our penal code and insanity of wanting retributions of all kinds. We imagine the this about our “god” as well, that “he” would measure us and find us wanting. We imagine that, like good little boys and girls, if we do everything exactly the way our Father” demands, we’ll earn his approval and–of course, love.

Further, we imagine that if we don’t do, say–be–exactly those “correct” things that we are damned and, ergo sum, lose the ultimate goal–the love of our “Father.” We paint these attributes and restrictions on each other, measuring through our own system of judgment whether God will approve of them. Even when the very Holy Books themselves admonish us from doing so–not judging others–we still do. Some of this is conscious and purposeful, while at other times, it is anything but.

God’s love does not operate according to our imaginations. There are restrictions, no rules, no judgments–as we understand those terms. “His” severity is in equal measures to “His” love. This is not the contradiction in terms that it may at first seem, since in the world of duality that we live in, both exist mostly in our own understanding of opposites. Without severity, love goes untempered; without love, severity is cruel and insensitive.

Finding balance and practicing patience, these are the attributes that make use human beings who all-too-often reject our own divinity. It is through our innate divinity that we can find the “love that surpasses human understanding” in a god who may at times seem cruel and uncaring when life shows up to us as overly severe.

How have you been treating yourself severely…unlovingly…for the sake of love?