Yikes…Have I become my parents?

Perhaps it is so ingrained in who we are as adults to be the product of our parents, both the good, the bad, the happy, the sad, that make us…well, us? Unique individuals who have something to contribute, even if some of it happens to be annoying…at times.

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “I’ve Become My Parents.”

Parents and children torn apart
Getting along…or not?

Why can’t we just get along with our parents? Maybe because we’re so much like them!

Over the years, I’ve noticed that many of those annoying things that I saw in my parents were things that I now do…to others…double yikes!

If there’s a way to pick only the good qualities of those who raised me to adulthood, that would be a different story. But, it now seems that it is many more of those questionable traits that I’ve adopted for my own.

The ten step programs might have some good suggestions, namely the first step…knowing you have a “problem” is key to changing it. Unlike drinking or smoking, changing a “negative” behavior is not something you can just quit doing like throwing away the pack of cigarettes or booze.

Does one enter into therapy to that annoying habit of over-sharing information in a seemingly friendly way? Perhaps…it seems that therapy is one of those avenues that are long and expensive, worthwhile though they may be, there is always another level of issue to uncover and deal with.

Or does one use some other self-help method to illicit change in oneself? Perhaps a self-administered electric shock every time I open my mouth when it’s not welcome? Hmmm, doubtful!

Perhaps it is so ingrained in who we are as adults to be the product of our parents, both the good, the bad, the happy, the sad, that make us…well, us? Unique individuals who have something to contribute, even if some of it happens to be annoying…at times.

At the end of the day, maybe it is the “looking in the mirror” that is seeing our parents in our own behavior that is uniquely human. We are who we have been raised to be, but we have an obligation…to ourselves…to change those things that we identify as “negative” by introspection and self-analysis. We have only our own best interests at heart…and…at the end of the day, isn’t that like being your own best parent?

I think so.

“Good Job” to Pick Me Up

Whatever I endeavor to do is my “job” and when someone recognizes it as “good” that is one of the things that immediately picks me up.

Another pick-me-up is just having someone acknowledge something I did in general with a simple “Thank You!” Gratitude goes a long way. I’m not one who needs a lot of apologies; in fact, saying “I’m sorry” is a bit of a downer to me…and often comes off as self-effacing.


Pick Me Up – The Daily Post

What is the one word or phrase that immediately cheers you up when you hear it?

via Pick Me Up | The Daily Post.

Lifemates in the New 5D Reality

Life is full of surprises, make them happy surprises!

What is the “ideal” lifemate” for a Fifth Dimension (5D) relationship?

The short answer: Lifetime is relative, focus on the now.

The somewhat longer answer is that for a relationship itself to be 5D, both partners must be firmly committed within themselves to living in the new reality with a 5D focus.

If one or both are still transfixed by 3D realties, it’s not possible to have a long-term, mutually productive relationship in the 5D–even if both “want” it. Perplexing as it may be, it’s not a “punishment”–with the suffering that will surely be commensurate. It’s just the additional “weight” (or wait) that the 3D world has, keeping it separate from that of the 5D one. Too many of the underlying motivations to let go of for each individual to do before a 5D relationship is possible.

This is not to say that it is impossible, just improbable for both to do in the short time that you have to establish a meaningful couplehood. So, look first for another 5D person, then begin the dance of intimacy, which is necessary for a satisfying and lasting relationship to emerge with the potential to last a lifetime.

Remember that in the 5D reality, it’s difficult to focus on a lifetime commitment when each of you is focused in the moment. The duality inherent in this 3D reality that each of you continues to inhabit which that still exists, will exerts “pressure” to value the past and the future–not so much in the 5D, the new reality.

This may be complicated, and often heart-wrenching, for you. So much of this world is still rooted in the physical (3D), The more spiritually-based 5D world requires a different viewpoint and yet you will remain physical as you continue to grow and evolve. Finding a lifemate maybe a goal, but try not to compromise in finding one who will be by your side, as you will on theirs. Do this with love, faith and joy, for that is what and who you really are.

Note: Lifemates in the New 5D Reality was started 9/8/09 and continued 8/12/12, almost 3 years in the making!