The Heart of the Matter

Love yourself like you did as a child
The Heart of the Matter

Love is the answer, but what is the question? Is there a heart so open that it is always breaking? Yes…but the point is that if your heart isn’t open, why else would you keep it closed?

We all live in fear…mostly fear of the truth that we ARE love. When you say, I love you to another person, do you expect that phrase to be parroted back to you? If you do, then consider this, you are making your love dependent on the other person’s response…whether you know it or not.

Before you close your heart, once again, to the possibility of loving someone after a big breakup with that special person you were sure was “The One,” consider a couple things.

First, if there was a split, no matter how wonderfully-delicious s/he seemed to be during the honeymoon phase, most likely the reality of that person being more than just your fantasy surely popped the bubble.

Second, the thing we all tend to mistake for love is really need-fulfillment in the form of another person due to the feeling that we ourselves lack something critical to our happiness. If you don’t see anything wrong with that, you can look forward to a lifetime of short, turbulent…if not occasionally fun, relationships. If you’re longing for someone to be more than that, consider changing your perspective.

Finally, and most likely, you will continue failing at the “love game” if you have not done one, very important thing first. What, you may ask, is that secret? You probably will balk at the answer…it’s falling in love with yourself first. Before we can recognize love in another, we must love ourselves. And, in my experience, very few people can look in the mirror without flinching and say to yourself, “I love you.”

This may, at first glance, seem highly egotistical, but it is not. Most of us were taught to have a sense of self-modesty and that we are imperfect, therefore, we have come to reason, we must be unlovable. How sad! Watch little kids before they’ve lost the feeling that they are adorable and lovable. They prance around, singing, laughing, engaging with others freely; no modesty there!

Fast forward to what we call adulthood and it’s no wonder that most of us suffer from feeling that we do not deserve love…even from ourselves! To get to the heart of the matter, there is no better place to start over than to emulative an innocent child. Try it. See what happens. But, most importantly, be gentle and patient with yourself, because it has been a long time since you showed YOU love!

Blessed Change, or Tarot me a Reading

A major life change brings you great blessings

This is showing up more and more in my life…I suspect in many people’s lives. Tarot has been a wonderful tool in pulling out the underlying causes; I’ve been doing Tarot readings for awhile now and the results are astonishing…even to me.

I wanted to create a new graphic to illustrate the nature of sacred change. I’m calling this series of graphics, Sacred GeoMancy, an example is below.

Sacred GeoMancy
Sacred GeoMancy

More about this to come!

Comments encouraged…:)

Judging and Others Changing…NOT

The Real Reason Judging Others Doesn’t Change a Thing About You

by Guy Finley (3/4/2013)

Key Lesson

One way to prevent yourself from going through a considerable amount of useless pain is to see the truth of the following, and then to act upon your discovery accordingly: judging others doesn’t change how much they disturb you; it serves only to distract you from seeing just how little it actually takes to set you off.

Stop Singing the Notes of Discord

We are all notes. We are all the notes of the kingdom. Each of us is able to resonate with things we would never dream could produce either such a soothing or scary resonance in us. What should be evident in this fact is that when the “sound,” or manifestation, of someone else sets us off and sends us into a fit, it is not their vibration that vexes us and makes us a “victim.” What really disturbs us is the internal vibrations of a few of our own unknown strings as they sound off (within us) in a natural sympathetic response to the dominating tones of the moment.

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Truths for Living

Our recurring resistance to these undesired moments, to such people and conditions as create in us this discord we mistakenly blame on them, keeps us from learning how to utilize these relationships in order to realize their true purpose for us. For instance, say there is someone at work who tends to irritate us. Our usual approach is to avoid this person, as our errant thinking tells us that being out of sight is out of mind. The only thing is, as we have all come to experience, we cannot escape the sound of our self; so if it isn’t that person we dodge at work, surely someone else will come along and strike a similar chord, “making” us hear those same sorry sounds of self again.

What is the answer? To realize deeply, personally, that we cannot outrun any one of these sounds of ourselves anymore than a piano can move out from under the strings by which it plays; and, as an integral part of this new self-understanding, that we need not, must not, resist some unpleasant note of our own, or that of someone else. These notes, whatever their tone, do not define us unless we make the mistake of identifying with their sounding. The false sense of self that each such sound produces within us is just that: a temporary self that is, itself, little more than a passing effect of the blending of these sounding notes.

To change our relationship with life, to realize its unlimited song, we must bravely learn what it means to hear all of ourselves. Here is the key to this new relationship: Our quiet awareness of any one sound of ourselves, regardless of its bright or dark tone, is the field of relationship and not its sole content. What does this mean? When we see a spring pasture, our pleasure is derived from seeing the whole of it — all of it colors, each of its shapes. Imagine judging a field of flowers by picking out one weed.

As we learn how to listen to the sounds of life within ourselves, as we open up to life’s endless relationships by becoming aware of them within ourselves without limiting their sounds simply because they don’t agree with our present five-note self, then we begin to realize our real life. We hear at last within ourselves the lost chord that has always been our true self.

This article is excerpted from Seeker’s Guide to Self-Freedom (pages 149-151).

Take the Interior Path to the Fearless Life

Excerpt from an article by Guy Finley

Key Lesson: The moment you see that the only thing you really fear in this life is what you’ve mistaken yourself to be, you’ll also see the interior path that leads to a fearless life. Take this path and you will find a greatness that is the source of fearlessness itself.
Secret of Letting Go coverThis article is excerpted from The Secret of Letting Go (pages 22-24). For a limited time, receive 15% off the price of this item.

Let Go of Your Mistaken Identity

Whenever we picture ourselves, there is one image that rarely, if ever, enters into our mental movie: that of being someone who is ready to fall apart. But truthfully, few of us see ourselves in any self-comprising light at all. We feel safe within the dimly lit theatre of our own circle-of-self-pictures and we return to it often — especially when the harsh light of reality starts to break through and show us we may not be as together as we’d like to think. This is why we need the truth in our lives. The truth is what allows us to see reality without being frightened about what we see. Part of the Truth’s rescuing action is to reveal to us that we are not apart from what we see. From this unique, inner-vantage point, the light of reality isn’t harsh — it’s Home. The more of this light we can welcome into our circle-of-self and its cast of 1,001 self-images, the easier it becomes to let go. Why? Because we aren’t losing anything except for what has been keeping us in the darkness.

“What makes you angry or anxious?”

“When things don’t go the way I want them to.”

“In other words, you’ve pictured how things should be, and when life doesn’t confirm these pictures, you get negative in one way or another.”

“Yes, that about describes it. What are you getting at?”

“Let’s work together at this. You said that when life doesn’t confirm your self-pictures — your hope of future security, love in relationships, or whatever it is — then some kind of stress or unhappiness comes up as these pictures of yours begin to fall apart. This shows us that within your present way of thinking, you believe your future happiness actually depends upon these pictures. This is why, as your pictures begin to crumble, so do you!”

“Yes, but why do I get angry or anxious?”

“Because these punishing emotions are part of a subtle system of self-subterfuge that accomplishes two dark things at once: it keeps the problem alive, and at the same time, it keeps the real solution out of sight.”

“What is the problem?”

“Essentially, it is a lack of understanding about your true nature. You are about to discover that you are not who you think you are. No matter how attractive or repulsive, you are not any picture you may be holding of yourself.”

“And what is the real solution?”

“Go ahead and let yourself fall apart!”

Life in Transition

In a word, balance!

It Started with a Quote

Wisdom lies neither in fixity nor in change, but in the dialectic between the two. Octavio Paz

The child and parent.

The student and teacher.

The reader and writer.

Back and forth.

Within and without.

Moving from one to the other.

Life in transition.

And Paz said wisdom is in the dialectic between the two.

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Aromatherapy and Astrology, Together

A friend posted this on Facebook and I checked it out. Seems interesting, would love to hear from astrologers and aromatherapists about what they think…chime in, please!

Astrology and Aromatherapy. Which is YOUR essential oil?

Astrology and Aromatherapy

Aquarius
Aquarius

Aquarius
Planetary ruler: Uranus
Element: Air
Positive traits…Aquarius is the astrology sign of the future…of all our hopes and dreams. Aquarians are individual, like to be different and do their own thing! They are liberal, idealistic, friendly, kind and love to spend time with other people…very much valuing friendship. Key words are humanitarian, intellectual, creative and original.

Negative traits…So independent and sometimes eccentric, they can appear to be impersonal, rebellious and unpredictable. Sometimes fixed in their opinions they can be perceived to be stubborn and tactless…especially when people disagree with them!

Health issues…The circulatory system, shins, and ankles are ruled by Aquarius. Varicose veins and circulatory problems may be an issue. May be prone to lower leg and ankle cramps, strains and breaks.

Essential oils…Neroli is their signature essential oil. Coriander, lemon, peppermint, rose and chamomile are among those suitable for softening hard-headed and stubborn personalities. Cypress, coriander, geranium, ginger, eucalyptus, neroli and lemon are all good oils to use to help aid poor circulation.

The Power to Release Any Painful Regret — Guy Finley

Key Lesson: Nothing in the universe can make you relive some painful moment from your past as long as you choose to live from the higher understanding that no old dark thought has the power to define you, let alone drag you down.

Any Limitation Can Be Transcended

Most of us at least sense that whenever we fall into despair, lose our temper, or relive some past painful regret, we have lost possession of ourselves. To some extent we know that negative states limit our freedom because, in their dark presence, even our natural power of making proper choices is put to the test. And if our choices in such moments are (at least) in part produced by these self-limiting states, then how can what limits us help to free us of anything? It’s obvious: it cannot. What are we to do?

Essentials Fearless Living

We need a whole new and true understanding of what “living without limits” really means. It does not mean the power to manifest endless possessions, or to access instant pleasures on demand. Even if one could achieve such ends, his or her life would still be fearfully empty for having to continually refill it with what must pass in time. What is limitless in life — that which is without end within us — is our God-given potential to transcend limitations.

When we reach the point where parts of us start to feel some kind of pain, some discomfort, it’s not that there isn’t more we could do; no, what limits us here is what we are afraid to go through in that moment.

What is it about this kind of fear that makes it so powerful? The answer may be hard to believe: fear’s power over us is nothing more than the way it causes us to forget the truth of ourselves, which is this: we are created to eternally transcend the limits of our present nature, to transform who and what we have been in the very moment it ceases to serve the good of us. But, because we have forgotten this or — more accurately speaking — because we are asleep to its power in us, we are compelled to search for, find, and then believe in “powers” outside of ourselves that always betray us in our hour of need.

Actualizing our spiritual right to live without the frustration of fearful limitations is not a question of achieving something new; it begins with choosing to end a relationship with that which has never been true. So, it isn’t a question of “What do I do?” but “What must I bring an end to?” Hence, the Christ’s saying: “Whoever shall lose his life shall gain it.”

Reality itself is on our side in this struggle; truth is our ally, and its light empowers us to succeed, which means we can’t lose. For instance, in any moment that some fear appears in our mind, and we remember that what we’re seeing there is simply the dark spawn of negative imagination, then where is its power to push us around? That’s right: the light of our realization in the moment needed is the same as dismissing that fear.

Here is one last encouraging, fear-busting fact and the bright action it helps to inspire. The source of our True Self is love-in-action. And since love transforms whatever it touches, any limitation can be transcended given our willingness to test this last truth: our True Self is created to neither serve, nor believe in anything other than the living Light that is fearlessness itself. Prove this truth to yourself, and you will know its powers.

This article is excerpted from The Essential Laws of Fearless Living (pages 42-45).