Vision, Hope, and Leadership

Part of a chapter in my book, Lost & Found


Planning Change

Many groups lack the foresight or level of planning required to take an organization beyond the early stages of development. For some, that’s fine; they may not need to have long-range planning. However, if an organization wants to make a real impact on its little portion of the world (a.k.a. mission and vision statements), they have to get past the initial push of enthusiasm and break out of the limitations implicit in working without a plan. But even with a plan, organizations require far more than goals.

Sometimes this can happen through fortunate circumstances or enormous effort on the part of the whole organization to keep things growing organically. I’ve seen this and it is wondrous and rare turn of events. For the rest, it means either the organization will hobble along, perhaps doing OK and sustaining itself on generous donations of time and effort, or they begin the other natural result, dissolution. This can happen slowly, even imperceptibly, over a long period of time; usually, the money or volunteers or both dry up. The stalwart few hold on to the remnants as long as is humanly possible, but unfortunately this rarely works in the long run.

Hope as an Intangible Asset

Hope is one of those intangible assets that can never be measured, bought, or borrowed. It must be present and sustained by those in the position to provide leadership and vision. Hope is like water; it can easily run through the metaphorical fingers of an organization if it’s not contained with some degree of effort on the part of those whose mission and therefore job it is. Equally unfortunate, for leadership of almost every kind, two common issues arise. One is to take the job too seriously; the other is to take oneself too seriously. For me, this has been truly been a life lesson.

A new nonprofit is being created to assist Native Americans in dealing with the aftermath of integration into American society and cultures, often without any real help from the agencies that supposedly were designed to fill this role. The main problem with any governmental agency is that it becomes a victim of its own ideas of rules and efficiencies and of course, the bureaucracy inherent in their very structure. So this nonprofit will step up to the proverbial plate.

A Leader’s Heart

Though this leader’s heart can sometimes be burdened by doubt, it is never without an unflagging sense of hope. This has been my lesson and gift from my participation in this process. There was a TV episode where one character was warned of false hope. The quick and heated retort was that there is no such thing as false hope; there is only hope or no hope; it can never be anything in between.

Envisioning Hope

May I offer that hope is at the heart of our outlook on life? If we have no hope that things are or will soon be better, we will find ourselves in a downward spiral of depression and ultimately failure. However, by focusing—in the mind’s eye—on what may seem to be a false hope to the more pragmatic of us, especially in those of us in a leadership position, we successfully keep success an illusion. In other words, it truly is folly. Vision keeps the eye focused on the true goal of the mission’s success, but, it’s the recognition that in keeping hope alive and well, our success is assured. That’s as true in business as it is in life.

© 2016

Excerpted from Lost & Found: Finding the Lost “I AM” Within You, Chapter 17, Guidance for Living in the New 5D World


Kailley Quote: Caught in the Sea of Collective Thought

The pervasive seas of collective thought that we constantly find ourselves trying to swim in, but often end up drowning out our own self-knowingness.

The pervasive seas of collective thought
that we constantly find ourselves
trying to swim in,
but often end up
drowning out
our own self-knowingness.
~Kailley (from my next book, Lost & Found II)
© 2016

Extreme Gratitude in 2016

I never feel alone, but that doesn’t stop me from missing conversations and physical interactions with friends and love ones. The time/space separation between us is one of the many illusions that we have to deal with in the third dimension (3D) world, though we can meet in the fifth dimension (5D) at any time, it’s not the same.

As 2015 came to a close and 2016 was just around the corner, I was thinking that I could NEVER have imagined how this year has turned out. Closing on a house? Getting a raise and retroactive increase in pay? Being given a renewed sense of the reason for a physical existence? And so much more.

Now it’s a whole new year, a whole new me.

Any one of these things would make me feel gratitude, all of them happening in one year has only happened a few times in my life. The year I received my first two Reiki attunements and accepted my ordination (1999), I had turned 40. Then in 2006, starting my massage exchange group (and all entailed), including meeting my twin flame (although I’m not a fan of that particular reference as it implied “soul mate”).

I’m sure there were more in previous years, but these more recent things were life changing to say the least. I never feel alone, but that doesn’t stop me from missing conversations and physical interactions with friends and love ones. The time/space separation between us is one of the many illusions that we have to deal with in the third dimension (3D) world, though we can meet in the fifth dimension (5D) at any time, it’s not the same.

It’s like the thing we call death; it seems to separate us, the “living”, from those who we may wish to be able to have in our lives. The veil between the living and dead only divides us from the each other in a tangible way that is one of the reasons why we have incarnated into the physical to begin with.

This year is a Nine (9) Year; it is about completing cycles and preparing for new ones. It has already begun with a new home, new neighbors and a new financial outlook. By the end of the year, there will be a lot more to feel grateful for…and to plan for changes.

Looking forward to more of that 3D reality that we enjoy so much as 2016 unfolds!

Nexus of 3D and 5D Relationships

There is no easy answer. Those in the fifth dimension are self-directed with their own moral compass. We answer to a higher purpose, a higher calling, our divine selves.

Chapter Seventeen: Guidance for Living in the New 5d World

Excerpt from “Lost & Found” by Debra E. Brady

Forget everything you thought you know
Forget everything you thought you know

Forget everything you thought you know—then a void will be opened into which the universe will fill to provide you more than you could ever dream of for yourself. ~Kailley

We have entered a time in human evolutionary history when two types of humans now exist side by side. The human being that has walked the face of the earth for millennia is now a dying breed. Now they are sharing their space with the new human being in an uneasy alliance between old and new. This new entry is those who have or are fast becoming part of the fifth dimension.

For the purpose of this article, I will distinguish between the two by calling the old human 3DHb and the new one 5DhB—perhaps an inelegant label, and I’m sure that we’ll need to figure out a new term eventually. In this code you may notice that “3D/5D” represents third and fifth dimension; the “h/H” stands for human; the “b/B” stands for being. The reason I choose to use small letters and capitals is to represent the primary focus; third-dimensional humans focus on the human/physical aspects, while fifth-dimensional humans focus on the beingness/metaphysical aspects.

Never before in recorded history has such a thing happened though I’m certain that it has to some degree. It’s possible that small, relatively isolated groups of 5DhBs have emerged. It’s very likely that these beings were not able to survive due to the dimensionally hostile environment they would have been in through no fault of their own; they just couldn’t exist to perpetuate more 5DhBs. In many cases, I suspect that 3DHbs came along and because of their differences, have felt that these other humans—the emergent 5DhBs—were a threat and therefore, had to be eliminated.

Now we coexist together though it continues to be an uneasy alliance. Certainly, there is enough of the 3D world that remains physically here in the 5D one to maintain both in familiar ways; however, this is quickly changing. Although these physical structures will not vanish or become unusable, even the vibratory rates of these structures are being modified by the influx of 5D energy. So while the world around us does not appear to be substantially changed, the underlying structural matrix is being rewritten. There will come a time that these structures will become hostile to those 3DHbs who still cling to the fantasy that they can continue to survive these changes. And it is a fantasy. We all know how good humans are at maintaining their personal reality through fantasy; this is no different.

When considering how you personally fit into this new 5D reality, you should examine your personal comfort level and emotional state. Those still clinging to the fantasy of the old 3D world are confused, angry, resentful, or just plain scared. From the 5D perspective, this is to be expected and sympathized, but the difficulty arises mostly out of the intersection between the two. Simply put, there are still far more 3DHbs than 5DhBs on this planet and the majority has a lot of collective weight to throw around. The majority rules are changing faster than the majority can deal with the new dimensional reality. There are no rules, per se, to follow. This is the most disorienting of all—what do we do, how do we behave, how do we expect others to obey, when there are no rules to follow to provide guidance?

There is no easy answer. Those in the fifth dimension are self-directed with their own moral compass. We answer to a higher purpose, a higher calling, our divine selves. The “little me” that Eckhart Tolle spoke of is about ego; the “I Am,” which is our divine self, is not. Justice in the 5D world will not look anything like that in the 3D world, and that makes many people on both sides feel somewhat uncomfortable. This is fully understandable for many reasons. Traditional criminals will not disappear overnight; those in jail will eventually get out. What do we do with these individuals who are clearly still part of the 3D world? The larger question is how to reintegrate these crumbs back into society; a question long overdue for an answer.

Many of these and other societal questions will continue to come up for examination in the coming years. The important thing to remember is that we have no precedents for this shift, and therefore, historical experience and remedies will not be substantive or, in some cases, relevant. It’s like entering our infancy again, only this time with a whole set of adult expectations and preconceived notions about how things should look and function. But these are erroneous or at least lack the power to affect the results we have come to expect.

In the new 5D world, personal responsibility for one’s own thoughts and actions is the hallmark of the newly formed society. Once individuals start seeing that there is a much closer relationship between their behavior and the resulting feedback, they will no longer feel that they can get away with things as they had in the past. This will not be overnight and much distress will be apparent from forays into this new territory over the coming years. Filling the already overcrowded jails with criminals is no longer a viable option for keeping us safe and secure. Programs may need to be instituted in its place to help to retrain these criminals to better understand the direct effects of their thoughts and behaviors to themselves and to that of society as a whole.

However, we need not focus on these negatives—what issues can and probably will arise due to these changes. It’s more productive, and therefore serves us better, to focus our energies on self-improvement and adjustments to our personal environments. We must let go of the need of wanting to make these for anyone other than ourselves. This is the impossible task that many of us have been attempting and, of course, getting us more frustrated in the process.

On Reality and Death

This morning I woke up to a LinkedIn post that I felt inspired to write on the death of the physical body.

Closeup of monument at Mount Seton
Power comes not to us so much as through us.

Here’s the post by Neill Severson (in the group, Life, Meditation, Spirituality, Healing, Yoga, and Self…)

WHERE do WE go after DEATH ??

Death eventually captures all of us. As far as I can tell, no human being has yet managed to live forever. Even if we evolve new silicon bodies for ourselves and find a way to transfer our minds into them, there’s no reason to believe those bodies will be immortal either (even with frequent upgrades). We may be able to delay death, perhaps even for a very long time, but eventually our physical existence will end ?at some point. Forever is too long for us to last as physical beings. No backup system is foolproof, especially when its opponent is the infinity of time. The personal thought system often asks questions that are not really questions but are statements in the form of questions. This is most evident with the question, “What happens when I die?” This question is based on the faulty premise that that which is asking the question exists. So there is no way to answer it directly without validating the faulty premise. This is why the question is really the personal thought system’s way of stating that it exists.

My membership in the group has not yet been approved, but here was the response I composed: Death is an illusion as is this so-called life. We give meaning to whatever state of reality we believe in. However, there is truth implicit in your words. the real question is not how long have I got until I transition into the next state of reality but how will I use this one best.

There is no reality that is universal; this is a difficult concepts for dualistic humans to understand. We are used to a linear existence that does not have room for these kinds of thoughts. But, if you open your consciousness up to this idea, you may see that it makes sense.

As always, I welcome thoughts and comments from my readers. Namaste!

No Small Parts…Just Small Minds

We all have our parts to play

No Small Parts, Just Small Minds

We all have our roles our play–parts in the drama of dualistic life on Earth. As children, we dream big, imaging anything and everything that we can this of–it’s all possible. Until, of course, we tell someone–some adult or older child about our dreams.

It’s not that they are “wrong”–they had the same dreams themselves; they also “grew Up” and realized that the world put limitations on what was possible. And, to the extent we believe in those limitations ,they are true. In truth, it is our own minds that create our limitations, downsizing our dreams of what is possible.

In this way, smallness is perpetuated. Once formed, it’s hard to increase the size of our dreams. Baby elephants in a circus are trained to know their limitation of movement by being staked to a fixed point. By the time they’re big enough to pull the puny stake from the ground and escape, they do not even try.

Our minds–or rather the thought that our minds have–hold us captive. Small mindedness captivates humanity, keeping it from fully embracing our greatness and divine potential. We are actually scared to admit it–to ourselves–just how powerful we are.

But, there are no small parts in life to play. Each of us came here to fulfill our divine purpose. we are the ones who assign smallness–lesser authority, power or prestige to these parts. It is your “job”–if you chose to do it–to not accept that you have a small part to play. It is also your responsibility to lift up all those children–of any age–to their personal greatest dream of themselves! Leave smallmindness to others who do not know any better and be the greatest you that you know how to be.

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For the Love of a Severe God

For the Love of a Severe God by DeBrady

Part of the next book in the Co-Creation Series

Find Balance, Practice Patience

The love of severity is one of those oxymorons; we are attracted to that which limits us. It starts as children but reaches its full fruition as we mature. We may rail against these same restrictions, yet if we’re offered alternatives, we balk–especially when these relaxations of conduct apply to society as a whole.

We see it in our penal code and insanity of wanting retributions of all kinds. We imagine the this about our “god” as well, that “he” would measure us and find us wanting. We imagine that, like good little boys and girls, if we do everything exactly the way our Father” demands, we’ll earn his approval and–of course, love.

Further, we imagine that if we don’t do, say–be–exactly those “correct” things that we are damned and, ergo sum, lose the ultimate goal–the love of our “Father.” We paint these attributes and restrictions on each other, measuring through our own system of judgment whether God will approve of them. Even when the very Holy Books themselves admonish us from doing so–not judging others–we still do. Some of this is conscious and purposeful, while at other times, it is anything but.

God’s love does not operate according to our imaginations. There are restrictions, no rules, no judgments–as we understand those terms. “His” severity is in equal measures to “His” love. This is not the contradiction in terms that it may at first seem, since in the world of duality that we live in, both exist mostly in our own understanding of opposites. Without severity, love goes untempered; without love, severity is cruel and insensitive.

Finding balance and practicing patience, these are the attributes that make use human beings who all-too-often reject our own divinity. It is through our innate divinity that we can find the “love that surpasses human understanding” in a god who may at times seem cruel and uncaring when life shows up to us as overly severe.

How have you been treating yourself severely…unlovingly…for the sake of love?