Letting Go of What No Longer Serves Us (excerpt)

Two open lotus flowers
Like two flowers, lifting their faces to the sun, we flourish in the light

We have come here to experience life in the physical; a life that is, by definition, dualistic and finite. Although we are, as Spiritual Beings, essentially immortal, this is not to say that the physical vehicle that we incarnated into…our body…is mortal. We manifested this body and were birthed into the physical. These bodies that we inhabit grow until we leave them; the body dies, we go on to another dimensional existence. Letting go of the physical, both in terms of this body and the various objects and persons we call “ours”, can often be a difficult process.

Once our body no longer servers us, through “natural” death or some form of terminal “accident”, we have “no choice” but to let go. When an object or person that we’ve identified as ours becomes more of an impediment to our growth than a benefit, that choice is often much more obscure and the process of dis-identification can feel painful, or at least uncomfortable. As parents, we are the stewards of new, emerging spirits learning to be independent and self-responsible human beings. A parent doesn’t own the child; there is a time for nurturing and a time for letting that child go to be a separate and self-reliant person in his/her own right. Even so, many parents have trouble recognizing when the “time is right” to let go.

As lovers, companions and spouses, indeed any of the many forms of human relationship, we have a vested interest in maintaining a mutual bond. However, even the strongest, well-forged, and time-tested bond can and does often fail. Even before failure, there may be many signs of the weakening or unbalanced quality of a relationship. The question that looms large in many of our minds is, when is it time to let go of that which no longer serves? Can a relationship survive where one person is contributing most or all of the energy to it? There are no easy answers when discussing matters of heart and home. We bond to others for many reasons; some of these reasons may not be clear to either party, but eventually, an out-of-balance relationship is doomed to failure.


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